J'adore Miss Emme

A Thousand Words

2011-10-18T18:35:00.001-04:00

The proverb states that, "A picture is worth a thousand words," but this two-frame cartoon featuring 30 words says so much more about the state of relationships between young Black men and women.

This image has been floating around my Facebook news feed in the last 24 hours and to my surprise it's actually almost a year old. It depicts a young Black woman choosing a thug over a nerd and later [almost 2 children later] attempting to get his attention. There are a plethora of stereotypes and messages presented in this cartoon.

There is depiction of the Jezebel archetype, seemingly making bad decisions resulting in being alone with two children. She wears the same outfit in both scenes, denoting that she hasn't progressed in life. She begins as an object of desire and ends up with a look of disdain. I questioned the excitement over the cartoon. Do young Black men see themselves as the rejected nerd? Is success [in any definition] some sort of sweet revenge? Why would young Black men want to seek revenge against young Black women?

The nerd is physically smaller and meeker than the man of choice. Note that he fawns over her and harbors resentment in his telling her to, "beat it." In my experience, this ties directly to how young Black men deal with rejection. Since the nerd doesn't posses physical power, he asserts his power through the material [i.e. a suit, money and sports car]. He basks in the confidence of having the power to reject her.

The artist depicts the thug character as a shirtless, tattooed, jewelry laden baby maker. I understand using two images of Black men that are on opposite ends of the spectrum to make a point. I do not understand imaging of a Black man as a negative. This perpetuates the negative stereotypes of both extremes within our own community.

There is truth in humor, but I still believe this is a generally unrealistic image where there is splitting [a psychological mechanism used where undesirable parts of oneself are disowned] and projection [when people unconsciously identify with a person, event or attitude by projecting the split parts of themselves] occurring. What is realistic is the self-fulfilling prophecy that occurs with imagery like this. If we believe it will happen then it will.

I'm still left with many a question in this cartoon. What happened during the "years later"? What does the next frame look like? Do Black women have bad taste in men? Is a woman with good taste in men an opportunist? What is the state of Black relationships? My list of questions can go on forever. What do you think?

Overall, I'm not a fan of the cartoon by any means. Not all Black women are thug-chasing "baby mothers" and shameless opportunists. And not all Black men are the irresponsible thug or docile, emasculated nerd. Stereotypes are wack.

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

In English, Please.

2011-05-20T08:03:00.000-04:00

Merriam-Webster defines dating as going out on usually romantic dates. Makes sense. A simple term with a simple definition in a world where relationship jargon has become extremely messy. Jargon isn't the only thing that has become complex, but defining boundaries and types of relationships has also become highly involved. When did this all happen?

Going steady. Talking. Hooking up. What does this all translate to? The dynamics of courtship are ever mutating and honestly I'm confused. I still don't know what hooking up really means. And as many other women do, I hate grey areas. The act of dating already consists of its own set of intricacies, so clear definitions are a necessity to me.

I am amongst this set of 21st century women who are talking. Many times a simple, "How do you know John?" results in a, "We talk." We talk can mean anything from literally just being on speaking terms to openly dating to a full blown relationship that just doesn't have titles. Why do we accept these made up, overtly vague terms? Requesting definitions doesn't mean marriage, it's just a friendly, "So, what exactly is this?" Is that so terrible?

I know that too many questions scare off men my age, but if a simple question like that cannot be answered they probably needed to be dismissed anyhow. Figuring out what the relationship is helps to build the crucial boundaries needed to weigh out your options. The secret is that when no one knows what to call it, no one knows how to treat it. And there you are, trapped in a murky relationship that was no direction.

Courting, seeking the attention or affections of someone with dating potential. Dating, occasional dates and spending time with a person. Openly dating, then I'm free to see other people with potential. Exclusively dating, then I'm seeing one person. Wasn't that easy?! I thought so.

So, what exactly is this?

I refuse to be wandering in the shadows of shapelessness! However, once you define what you're doing you have to keep true to form. Only boyfriends get "boyfriend privileges" and only husbands receive "husband privileges" in my book. Date smarter, not desperate. Someone will respect your definitions and boundaries.

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

Abandonment Issues

2011-05-19T13:52:00.000-04:00

I've abandoned you...

And for that I sincerely apologize. Life gets hectic from time to time and the things you love [this here blog] tend to suffer. However, after a three month hiatus, I think you all deserve some conversion about love, dating and everything in between.

I was recently in a production of "For Colored Girls..." [BTW I love my cast mates] and Lady in Yellow, my dear, sweet Amber, demanded my return. Voila, c'est moi!

Stay tuned for new "What Do You Want?!" posts and so much more!

bisou, bisou
Miss Emme

Valentine's Day: A Blind Date Experiment

2011-02-14T17:37:00.001-05:00

Throw our names in a hat, pick a name and set them up on a blind date in the name of St. Valentine! Why I agreed to this, I'll never know.

Four friends and I have agreed to be set up as part of my friend Nkem's "Valentine's Day Experiment," just for fun. Nkem came to us with this Aphrodite-esque proposal and most were reluctant at first, but we succumbed to her plans.

Meet the Players!

Alexis - The Reluctant One

Claudette - The Positive One

Karenda - The One on the Fence

Nkem - The Mastermind

Miss Emme - The Observant One

Alexis was the hardest to convince and Claudette's participation was dependent on Alexis'. Once they were in, the game was on! My hope for this experiment is for everyone to open up a bit and more importantly have fun. We're all young, educated, driven Black women, why shouldn't we live a little?

The group has created stipulations that I'll think we'll keep to ourselves and we're quite open-minded, so long as the men are eligible bachelors. We picked the names out of the hat and followed up with "consultations." We know the blind dates are just for fun, but we still want them to be good! I'm to procure a date for Claudette, Claudette's to find a date for Nkem while Nkem's working on a young man for Karenda and finally Karenda's going to set me up. We've been brainstorming together to find the perfect date for Alexis!

The dates have been chosen and set up for different days this week. So, stay tuned for a follow-up on the V-Day Experiment.

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

Happy V-Day from Miss Emme ; ]

2011-02-14T17:21:00.001-05:00

Some people dread it, others embrace it and the rest just don't care. Today is Valentine's Day and I'd just like to wish all the lovers of the world an Happy Valentine's Day! It's seasonably warm and the sun is shining. Walk down the street and wish someone a Happy V-Day. You might be surprised at how pleasant the response will be. Spread the LOVE!

Here's my favorite love quote for the road!

"I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you straight-forwardly, without complexities or pride; so I love you because I know no other way." -Pablo Neruda

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

What Do You Want?!: The Non-Standard One & The Lady

2011-01-30T19:20:00.001-05:00

This time I ventured into the realm of Terrell Brown, you're in for a surprise. I also interviewed my lovely N-Sista, Ugochi. She definitely likes a man's man. Get to know them!

Name: Terrell Brown

Age: 20

Occupation: Student

Hometown: Baltimore, Maryland

Relationship Status: Very, very perfectly lonely

What physical attributes attract you to a woman?

Umm, well all attributes of a woman attract me. I find a beautiful piece in every woman. I have no preferences. I fall in love with every woman for about five minutes. Beggars can't be choosers. But really preferences, I fall in love with women because of their personalities. And umm, you know. I don't know, I find something beautiful in every woman. Honestly,that's the truth. That's the honest answer.

What intangible characteristics do you find important?

Just, umm, that's a good question. I think the best intangible characteristic a woman can have is to be open-minded. I think that covers everything.

What's your favorite thing about Black women?

Besides their beautiful characteristics? I think many women and men would be honest and say their booties.

So, that's your favorite thing about Black women?

I mean the shallow side of me. Yes, that is. Absolutely.

Would you date women of other races? Why or why not?

Why not? I would date any woman of any race. Race doesn't matter to me. If I'm trying to find a woman, I think that's really a f****ed up way to look at things.

If you could give tell Black women everywhere the most perfect piece of advice, what would it be?

Quit the f***ing weave and s**t out and the make-up. Yeah, cut that s**t out. Like, I don't when that fad became huge. I think like in high school it became big because everybody wants to be a model these days. But I think it's pretty f***ing annoying, honestly. I guess sometimes it's cool, but you can't just f***ing substitute your real face and hair for the rest of your life.

If you could pick anyone in the world to take on a romantic date, who would it be?

Number one would be Oprah because I would hope that she'd break me off. Number two would be Adriana Lima, she's my new found love. Three would be Kim K. of course and number four would be Nicki Minaj's butt.

Not Nicki Minaj, but Nicki Minaj's butt apart from her?

Yeah, absolutely. And number five I'd have to say would be. I'd go with Kendra Wilkinson's rack. She has some nice boobs.

Name: Ugochi O. Nzeadighibe

Age: 21

Occupation: Student

Hometown: Baltimore, Maryland

Relationship Status: Single

What physical attributes attract you to a man?

Height (I'm short, so that's not a problem), teeth (can win me over with a lovely smile) somewhat muscular... loves a man that can wrap his arms around me, make me feel secure! Ohh and a man in uniform/dressed to impress makes me weak. lol

What intangible characteristics do you find important?

Intelligent, Honest, Confident, Strong, Motivated, Optimistic and Funny.

What's you favorite thing about Black men?

Their determination and drive for success, strength and courage to overcome daily obstacles.

Would you date men of other races?

I'm open to dating men form other races, learning things about their life/ the way they were raised but I prefer a black man because it's a common background we share. Plus I love chocolate (both candy & men) there is something about it. I just can't explain in words.

If you could tell Black men everywhere the most perfect piece of advice, what would it be?

Never judge a woman from appearance alone, you will never know what you are missing out on. She might be the woman of your dreams but you let her slip away!

If you could pick anyone in the world to take on a romantic date, who would it be?

Hmm...it's hard to choose one! Lance Gross & Common!! (LOVE THEM)

If you want to be featured in a "What Do You Want?!" post, email JadoreMissEmme@gmail.com with "interview" as the subject.

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

#TeamWhiteBoys

2011-01-30T16:27:00.000-05:00

One day I was tweeting that I wanted in on #TeamWhiteBoys, meaning that I wanted to be well on my way of exploring the realm of dating a white man. To my surprise, I had quite a few retweets. I didn't know that so many other Black women were interested in venturing outside of their race. Just an observation. We created a sort of camaraderie, if you will.

I brought the subject to my friends [of course]. A few friends were definitely welcoming to the interracial experience, but I did I have one friend who strongly disagreed. She always said she could appreciate a handsome white man, but would never date one. When I asked my Black male friends about dating a white man, they all had a slight shudder at the idea. These were the same men that were all open to the idea of dating a white woman [talk about double standards]. They found the concept to be abandonment and a result of giving up hope on Black men. I'm not giving up hope, but let's call it broadening my horizons.

Sanaa Lathan & Simon Baker in Something New

Something New was the perfect example of a young Black professional woman seeking out love and change in her life and it just happened to with a white man [FINE Simon Baker at that]. To some it's a not such a big deal and to others it seemed to mean the world. I've been asked questions about being able to relate on cultural levels with a white man. I just thought to myself that I also have cultural differences with Black Americans and other Black folk in the Diaspora, so how "different" could it be if we had the fundamental things in common? I remember my father advising me never to be romantically interested in "those American boys," but that was to no avail. I just know that I'll never be familiar "white privilege" and he'll never be able to completely understand the Black experience no matter how much he appreciates it. It comes with the territory.

Really, what harm can some casual dating do? Could I consider a white man as a serious mate? Honestly, I don't know. Could I share a few drinks and laughs with one? Absolutely. What started as a small joke has grown into a thought-provoking discussion and a new dating adventure. I'll keep you updated.

Are you #TeamWhiteBoys? Would you consider it? Is it even that serious?

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

Gaps of the Generational Kind

2011-01-19T12:54:00.000-05:00

Wisdom is the kind of thing that is only gained from experience. That was the obvious part, but when times change, what advice remains timeless? Is mom's advice still relevant in a time where women don't wear pantyhose, men stay in the kitchen and people meet their mates on the internet?

The unwritten rules of dating are constantly changing, but what foundational rules are going to last forever? I have a great respect for the wisdom that my elders have to endow me with, but there are times where that their advice no longer applies. So, I'm often left torn between antiquity and modernity. For instance, I'll wait for a man to open the door for me on a date, but I might pick up the bill. Which old-school rules about the opposite sex do you abide by, today?

Young men don't always meet my parents before they whisk me away on a first date and I believe that a couple should live together before they're married [because you never really know someone until you live with them]. But one piece of advice my mom gave me that always remains relevant was to "let a man be a man." Obviously, that's relative to each individual, but I found that piece of advice from Mommy to be priceless. But those priceless jewels are becoming rare. What's the best piece of generational advice you've ever received?

Another issue that crosses my mind when speaking on generational shifts, is the change in boundaries and standards that occurs. The generation before us always shakes it head in mild disapproval with a "those crazy kids" tagged to the motion. However, the question that weighs on me is when have the changes gone too far? When different behaviors become more and more acceptable as the years go by, where's the limit? What's distasteful and inappropriate? Moreover, how do we instill those old-school values to put the reigns on modernity gone awry?

In a recent conversation with my mom, she admitted that she sometimes wonders if the advice she gives me is pertinent. She doesn't worry too much because luckily I'm attached to some of the more antiquated rules than her progressive self. I'll be telling my daughter to wait for him to open all the doors and teaching my son to always offer to pay first [yeah, I said it!]. What piece of dating advice or rules will you pass down to the next generation?

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

What Do You Want?!: The Equal Opposites

2010-12-16T01:44:00.007-05:00

I almost feel like these two are the same type of gears grinding in the opposite direction. Both superbly creative minds, one defined and one abstract, if you will. This is one of my favorites.

Name: Christina

Age: 20

Occupation: Full time student, office worker

Hometown: Fort Washington, MD

Relationship Status: Single

What physical attributes attract you to a man?

I'm not really big on physical attributes, but I do notice a man's smile. If you have a beautiful smile and use it often that is an automatic attraction. Secondly would have to be the skin and lastly a fresh shape-up and nice facial hair. And oh yeah, height seeing as I'm 5'10"...

What intangible characteristics do you find important?

Honesty, creativity, goal-oriented, intelligent.

What's your favorite thing about Black men?

Their ability to stand out.

Would you date men of other races? Why or why not?

I would date men of other races because as long as we make a mental connection frivolous things like race will not come in the way.

If you could tell Black men everywhere the most perfect piece of advice, what would it be?

To open up your hearts and not be afraid to love.

If you could pick anyone in the world to take on a romantic date, who would it be?

Hmm that's hard...NOT! Of course, Kanye West.

Christian's interview was the first ever "What Do You Want?!" profile that was recorded. There might be more of this in the future!

Name: Christian Newson

Age: 22

Occupation: Student

Hometown: Silver Spring, MD

Relationship Status: Single

What physical attributes attract you to a woman?

Her butt. I just like thick, voluptuous women. I mean the face is all right, but it all starts at the core.

What intangible characteristics do you find important?

Independence. Devotion to themselves, not to me. That's key.

[I asked Christian to elaborate on what he meant by devotion and here's the low down..]

You've got to be about you, you can't be worrying about me all the time. If you're worrying about me all the time the relationship's going to be all about me. I'm not going to stress you about what you do because I'll be doing me. I don't want you stressing me about what I do because I'll still be doing me. At the end of the day, that devotion you have to yourself over the devotion you have to me.

What's your favorite thing about Black women?

The way... I don't want to say that this a bad thing because it can also be their downfall. The way they just are. Black women are not... It's like they need you, but they don't need you. They'll leave you real quick, then they'll come back even quicker. I don't know how to explain it. It's them not needing me. Out of everybody, Black women I'd probably say are the most unsubmissive. If that explains it at all.

Would you date women of other races? Why or why not?

Yes! Because they are submissive and I can have my way with them. Not my way, but there would be very, very little argument. I'm not the type to argue, like other races don't argue. But I don't really mess with other races because I really do just like Black girls. You've got to be mixed with Black, have some of that in you.

If you could tell Black women everywhere the most perfect piece of advice, what would it be?

To listen and communicate. Black women don't listen or communicate. They get very emotional real quick. That's all I've got for you, to listen and communicate.

If you could pick anyone in the world to take on a romantic date, who would it be?

It would be you, Kassandre. Because honestly, you're a great friend and I just appreciate everything you do for me right now. Like even right now, where I'm at right now, you're helping me out. So, it would be you.

If you would like to submit a "What Do You Want?!" profile, please email JadoreMissEmme@gmail.com with "profile" as the subject.

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

Earth Girls Aren't Easy: The Winter Boos

2010-12-10T12:09:00.001-05:00

It's cold outside, the sun sets at 5 p.m. and something biological is telling you that being alone in your bed at night just isn't right. It's "cuffing season," the time of year when people couple up and everyone on your Twitter timeline feels like cuddling.

Personally, I'm still getting used to being single and the things that come with that. Being completely unattached is a new realm and this season has me missing the companionship. It was nice to have one person to send that energy towards, but not having that isn't stressing me out by any means.

I'm curious as to how other single girls are faring. Are other young women experiencing the "winter blues" and hunting for natural body heat? Is the feeling truly biological, mental or just a social standard? Whatever the reason, the cuffing has been happening all around me.

I must say the amount of phone calls, texts and bbms have definitely increased since the cooler weather has set in. People really just want some company or someone to occupy their time with, but where's the line between finding comfort in someone and making someone your reliable play-thing?

I hate the idea of leading anyone on simply because I enjoy the conversation. I like to talk, I like to laugh and like any human being, I enjoy the attention. I'm capable of participating in that sort of relationship without building more attraction or expecting the relationship to reach another level. Sometimes, I feel as if I need to pump the brakes a bit in order to send the message that things won't be going any further. I just realized while writing this that that can be detrimental to finding a potential partner that may actually be good for me [Self discovery at its finest. Who knew?]. However, I won't used the winter weather as an excuse to rush into something else.

Back to the point! Is cuffing season something that's dangled over our heads? Is it even worth it to be cuffed up in anticipation of the summer break-up? Are you cuffing this season?

I've come to the conclusion that the urge to be paired is some natural animal instinct in us to help us survive winter and procreate come spring. Isn't that how rabbits work it out? It's so simple, but then again nothing about human beings is.

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

What Do You Want?!: The Ones in Charge

2010-12-04T18:46:00.000-05:00

There's a reason why these two are the ones in charge! Meet Manny, my good friend who runs Fresh Honesty and Nkem, the president of the MSU section of the NPHC.

Name: Emanuel Bennett

Age: 23

Occupation: Photographer

Hometown: Brooklyn, NY

Relationship Status: Boo'd Up

What physical attributes attract you to a woman?

Eyes, Smile, Teeth, Lips, Breast, Legs, Voice

What intangible characteristics do you find important?

Understanding and Trust.

What's your favorite thing about Black women?

Strength.

Would you date women of other races? Why or why not?

Sure, people are people even if they descend from other tribes.

If you could tell Black women everywhere the perfect piece of advice, what would it be?

Love yourself and embrace your beauty. You are the most exotic, most powerful and most important force on this earth so start acting like it.

If you could pick anyone in the world on a romantic date, who would it be?

It's a secret...

Name: Nkemdilim [kem-dill-em] Uzoka
Age: 22
Occupation: Student
Hometown: Largo, Maryland
Relationship Status: Single

What physical attributes attract you to a man?

Like a basketball player/ quarterback physique. Must be taller. I like thicker, well shaped eyebrows. I like someone who resembles a feline. Nice smile, great lips. Nice teeth, too. You've got to have nice hands. Well-fitted clothes, everything has to look clean and no dirty sneakers. Pretty boys. Pretty eyes.

What intangible characteristics do you find important?

Sensitivity, I like a guy who's not afraid to show his emotions. You've got to be able to laugh at yourself and being gentle is important. And spontaneous! Intelligent, too.

What's your favorite thing about Black men?

They're drive. When a Black man really wants something, whether it's good or bad they do whatever it takes to get it. And I like the diversity within our culture.

Would you date men of other races? Why or why not?
Hell yeah. Why not?

If you could give Black men everywhere the most perfect piece of advice, what would it be?
Keep your head up. Psych! Black women really appreciate you.

If you could pick anyone in the world to take on a romantic date, who would it be?
Lil Fizz. [she's serious] And Lance Gross.

If you're interested in having a "What Do You Want?!" profile posted, email JadoreMissEmme@gmail.com with interview as the subject.

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

Girls... with Friends

2010-12-02T19:25:00.002-05:00

Friends. They seem to be an epidemic in young Black relationships. We've heard it in music, seen it on film and have even observed in our own lives. No matter how intensely you feel about your significant other, there always seems to be that one friend that you just cannot stand. It's that simple.

"I don't like them," is the phrase that's spewed out and often paired with a disapproving expression. The reasons may vary, but the issue exists across the board. Whether it's the friend with the bad attitude, the friend that is single or the most-hated male friend, there is a question about why the relationship exists.

My friends weren't well-liked in my last relationship and neither was the fact that I had a lot more male friends and acquaintances than he expected. He thought that my stance with him was compromised by my loyalty to my friends and male friends always had some hidden agenda. It was difficult to find a median, having to remain true to my friendships and still creating a comfortable environment for my significant other. I'm sure I'm not the only woman that has had to find the balance between the two.

I've heard of all sorts of reasons why men didn't like the company kept by their woman. Single friends are another common issue, having a problem with the advice that they give to where they spend their time and how they dress. They love spending time with you and hate on your relationship just so the two of you can be single together. Then there's the Martin-Pam combination, enough said.

The idea that a man or woman didn't like their partner's friends has always denoted, for me, a lack of trust in their partner's judgment. And with that logic it only leads me to ask, if she can't pick good friends, how could she possibly pick a good boyfriend?

It sometimes seems as if a man's loyalty to his friends completely overrides a woman's loyalty to hers. I believe that it ties right into the traditional concept of women having to sacrifice their lifestyles and replacing it with that of their significant other. Are young women still filing themselves into those positions? How are we supposed love and accept every friend that they've made in a lifetime, when they won't think twice about accepting ours?

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

What Do You Want?!: The Honest Ones

2010-11-16T15:02:00.007-05:00

The volume of responses to this survey has been absolutely amazing and greatly appreciated! Profiles will still be posted weekly and I promise all of your submissions will be displayed! With that squared away, there are two new people for you all to meet.

Name: Nicole Edmonds

Age: 21

Occupation: Student

Hometown: New York, New York

Relationship Status: Single

What physical attributes attract you to a man?

The way they're dressed and how they're groomed. Also, a slightly bow-legged man. You have to be taller than me. That's a must! NO DIRTY SNEAKERS. No thick-ums and you cannot be fat.

What intangible characteristics do you find important?

A sense of humor is very important. I feel like a nice personality is so general, but you can't be an a##hole. Then, there's the obvious things like loyal and faithful. Also, I kind of like a guy who takes control. I like guys that are forward, like aggressive.

What's your favorite thing about Black men?

Their complexion, oh my goodness! A nice brown tone is just amazing. And you can't be ashy. That's gross.

Would you date men of other races? Why or why not?

No. I'm just not attracted to any other races. I can recognize a handsome or attractive man of any race, but it's not going any further than that. You gotta be a certain complexion to ride this ride. [laughs]

If you could tell Black men everywhere the most perfect piece of advice, what would it be?

Don't be on that bullsh#t. Stop being selfish and be upfront about what you want. And stop being back-and-forth. Nobody has time for that. AND stop lying so much, damn!

If you could pick anyone in the world to take on a romantic date, who would it be?

DERWIN! Pooch Hall.

Name: Stephan

Age: 23

Occupation: Full Time: Student, Part Time: Customer Service

Hometown: Fort Washington, MD by way of Queens, NY

Relationship Status: Single

What physical attributes attract you to a woman?

Long legs, nice butt, nice teeth and eyes.

What intangible characteristics do you find important?

Confidence, there's somethings to be said for someone who can walk into a room and say nothing at all and still be seen off of charisma alone. Someone that has a colorful personality, I like someone that has many different interests and someone I can talk to without feeling like we're talking about nothing even though we probably are.

What's your favorite thing about Black women?

I see strength in black women. That's not to say that I don't see strength in other races but that's just a characteristic that always jumps out at me when I think of my sisters.

Would you date women of other races? Why or why not?

Yes, I am child of many different races and cultures and as such I am attracted to many different things. However, when I look at one race over another I'm not looking at the same things. I'm looking at the differences, in a good way.

If you could tell Black women Everywhere the most perfect piece of advice, what would it be?

Because you have had the weight of the world on your shoulders doesn't mean that the strength you've earned needs to become the anger you feel. Those who notice your struggle appreciate it.

If you could pick anyone in the world to take on a romantic date, who would it be?

Stacey Dash, enough said!

If you want to be featured in a "What Do You Want?!" post, email JadoreMissEmme@gmail.com with "interview" as the subject.

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

A Dream Deferred

2010-11-13T16:21:00.001-05:00

I was listening to Wale's "Ambitious Girl" track off of his More About Nothing mixtape [which I do often] and was fascinated by his admiration of a young woman who chases her dreams. He described it as a turn-on saying things like, "...your drive drives me crazy" and "...your productivity is the reason I interest." It's definitely a fitting song for the young women at my university, especially the ones I surround myself with; young Black women who are dream chasers.

This same song also left me reflecting on the famous quote from I Think I Love My Wife, "You can lose lots of money chasing women, but you will NEVER lose women chasing money." This adage doesn't particularly hold true for women. There has always been a plethora of stories, especially about Black women, losing out on love because they chose a more ambitious route. Why don't men chase the dream chasers?

Black women have so much more to lose in the pursuit of our dreams, sacrificing relationships, pushing emotions to the side and losing out personal time, having to strive a little bit harder than everyone else. There are those that push through and see their endeavors come to fruition. Others put themselves to the side and watch their dreams slip away. The truth is we can have it all, just not all at the same time.

It depends on what's important and when it becomes important. Priorities change with time, but I'm definitely using my youth to better myself, strive for my goals and grow as a person. How can I expect so much from a partner if I'm not bringing anything to the table? Let's call it evenly yoked, on all levels.

I've spoken with more experienced career women that have all met with the same challenge. Compromise. Some working harder in their fields in order to support their families and some slowing down on their career paths because they desired families. They all managed to find a balance, whether it meant sacrificing one thing or another.

But where does that leave the 20 year old college junior with entrepreneurial aspirations? And the 23 year old fresh out of a university looking for a graduate school in a new state? We are least likely to have serious obligations forcing us to make those sacrifices. Yet, we face some of our counterparts who believe the choice is simple. It's one thing to consider the future plans of a significant other and another to allow your own plans to fall by the wayside.

How much would you compromise in the name of love? Is seeking independence a man deterrent? Where are the men chasing the dream chasers [Is Wale the only one? LOL]? Is the premise of Deliver Us From Eva a prevalent reality?

Too unrealistic?

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

He Doesn't Know It

2010-11-11T20:43:00.006-05:00

If you can't tell, I enjoy the genius of Nina Simone. One of my all time favorite songs is "He Needs Me." So, as an interlude to the regular posts I'm tossing this video into the mix. Hope you enjoy it.

He needs meHe doesn't know it, but he needs meAnd so no matter where he goes Though he doesn't care He knows that I'm there
He needs meI ought to leave him, but he needs meI know that I ain't very bright Just to tag aloneOh, but right or wrongI'm his and I'm hereAnd I'm gonna be his friend or his lover
'Cause my one ambition isTo wake him and make him discoverThat he needs meI've got to follow where he leads meOr else he'll never know that I need him Just as he needs me
bisou,bisouMiss Emme

What Do You Want?! : The Pioneers

2010-11-09T20:32:00.003-05:00

This is the first post [outside of my own] of the "What Do You Want?!" feature. Every week, I'll be spotlighting a young man and young woman who were brave enough to disclose their preferences. These two can be considered the pioneers because they were the first to respond to my request [thanks a million!]. Ladies and gentlemen, meet Thomas...

Name: Thomas N. Wynder

Age: early 20s

Occupation: Fashion Retail Management

Hometown: Detroit, MI [DETROIT WHAT!!!!!]

Relationship Status: Single

What physical attributes attract you to a woman?

Height, I'm 6'4"...

What intangible attributes do you find important?

Intelligence, confidence, class, culture, drive.

What's your favorite thing about Black women?

Their uniqueness.

Would you date women of other races? Why or why not?

Depends on what we mean by date... Casually, yes. Seriously, no. As my mother once told me, it is the ultimate disrespect to bring someone home to your mother who has nothing in common with her.

If you could tell Black women everywhere the most perfect piece of advice, what would it be?

Pursue what it is that you desire from life, not a man.

This one's for fun! If you could pick anyone in the world to take on a romantic date, who would it be?

Halle Berry

...and Tamille!

Name: Tamille

Age: 23

Occupation: Library Office Aide

Hometown: Brooklyn, NY

Relationship Status: Single

What physical attributes attract you to a man?

I'm pretty flexible when it comes to looks. I think beauty comes in all shades and forms.

What intangible characteristics do you find important?

Honesty, integrity, intelligence, dependability, loyalty.

What's your favorite thing about Black men?

Sharing a common culture. I've dated outside my race before and sometimes when you make a joke about childhood or being raised by a black mother they don't get it but you know a black man is going to know exactly what you're talking about.

Would you date men of other races? Why or why not?

I've done it twice, because like I said beauty comes in all shades and forms. What's more important to me is how he treats me.

If you could tell Black men everywhere the most perfect piece of advice, what would it be?

If you come across a real woman in your life don't mess around and loose her. You'll regret later.

This one's for fun! If you could pick anyone in the world to take on a romantic date, who would it be?

Drake or Aubrey Graham or Wheelchair Jimmy, whatever you know him as lol

Thank you guys! It was a treat to receive these!!

If you want to be featured in a "What Do You Want?!" post, email JadoreMissEmme@gmail.com with "interview" in the subject.

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

Natural Hair + Black Men= ?

2010-11-09T19:17:00.004-05:00

In celebration of my first "Big Chop" anniversary, I wanted to touch on my experience with natural hair in the dating realm. When I first decided to transition from relaxed to natural hair, I was already in a serious relationship. My boyfriend was supportive of my choice as long as I didn't end up with a low ceasar.

December 2009

I was concerned about growing my hair long enough before cutting off my relaxed ends. He expressed that I should practice the virtue of patience. I had only made it about five months before the scissors began to call my name. I stood in my bathroom for two hours carefully cutting away at my own mane. I panicked. I was afraid of what I had done to myself, afraid that I had made myself ugly and definitely afraid to tell him what I had done.

I waited 24 hours and sent him a picture. I anxiously awaited the response. "Well, it was nice while it lasted," was the reply I received. I was in shock and in tears. I took him seriously and according to him that was supposed to be a joke. I never found it funny.

I wanted to be natural and I wasn't overly concerned about what other people thought. As soon as I cut it all off, the insecurities came flooding in. Did I look like a boy? Did I make a mistake? Does my boyfriend hate it? Do I hide my hair until I'm comfortable? I struggled.

I always wondered if other naturals were concerned about how their choice would affect their relationships or dating prospects. Or if their significant others were open-minded enough to accept the change and confident enough to defend the tresses, long, short, relaxed or natural. Sometimes, Black men's insecurities are reflected in the women that they date; with women having to appear a certain way for their own comfort.

November 2010

Another question that has remained in the back of my mind was about the type of men natural hair attracts. I notice that more seemingly Afrocentric and artistic men and loc wearers approach a natural girl. We get called things like "sister" and "queen." Do those men see natural-haired women in a different light? Do other men see natural-haired women as unapproachable?

If my curls deflect men of my interest, maybe those men should have never been on my mind in the first place. Do you think that natural or relaxed hair makes a difference?

About two months after my "big chop," my boyfriend saw my hair in person for the first time. It wasn't so bad, after all. He liked it better than he thought he would. My hair being natural actually didn't matter much. I had fussed over nothing. He was interested in me and that meant accepting my curls as part of the package.

bisou, bisou
Miss Emme

What Do You Want?! : The Quest

2010-11-04T16:59:00.012-04:00

In the last post, I announced that I was going to begin my quest of finding out what Black men want. No, I am not being biased. I'm also interviewing Black women to found out what they want from their counterparts. Together, we're going to disperse myths, create realistic views and demystify the dating realm.

These posts will be popping up soon! So, I'll leave you with one of my favorite quotes about love.

"Love, I find, is like singing. Everybody can do enough to satisfy themselves, though it may not impress the neighbors as being very much." -Zora Neale Hurston

Update--

My friends have convinced me to give a preview of the "What Do You Want" profile by posting my own!

Name: Miss Emme
Age: 22
Occupation: Student
Hometown: Brooklyn, New York
Relationship Status: Single

What physical attributes attract you to a man?
Teeth, I love a great smile. A tall man is definitely preferred; so are warm eyes, smooth skin and basketball player's frame. I also like a strong sense of personal style. A man in a well-tailored suit always gets bonus points.

What intangible characteristics do you find important?
I value honesty and openness; and an intelligent man that can hold a conversation and leave me with something new. Generosity is very important, so is a quirky sense of humor. A gentlemen with confidence and ambition is very sexy.

What is your favorite thing about Black men?
Their strength and their ability to persevere.

Would you date men of other races? Why or why not?
I would. I've always been open to the idea. There's no particular reason why or why not.

If you could tell Black men everywhere the most perfect piece of advice, what would it be?
Give women everything that you want in return.

This one's for fun! If you could pick anyone in the world to take on a romantic date, who would it be?
I have three! Idris Elba, Common and Wale. They're each very different men. It'd be interesting to interact with them all.

There it is! The first "What Do You Want" profile. Let me know what you think!

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

The Laws of Attraction

2010-11-03T20:52:00.003-04:00

"Do you really think that guys notice that?" My friend chuckled at that fact that women wear mascara and false lashes to make their eyes stand out and essentially seem more attractive. "Who told you that? A girl told you that?"

The discussion continued. He claimed men don't notice every tiny detail that women painstakingly pour over to make themselves appear a certain way. I argued that the details are what make up the big picture and overall appearance is rarely ignored by male or female. His simple, "Who told you that?," continued to ring in my head long after the conversation was over.

Who set the standards? Why do we really wear mascara? Who do we wear the mascara for? Now, don't get me wrong. I like to play in make-up as much as the next M.A.C. girl, but I never really questioned why I was wearing make-up.

Everything from how women wear make-up and how we do our hair, to the tight jeans that show off the cheeks and the bra that pushes breasts into the heavens is a part of beautifying and enhancing ourselves. But for who? If the men don't notice the details, who do we dress up for? I know there is a slew of you saying that we do it for ourselves, to make ourselves feel good and to express ourselves outwardly. That's perfectly fine. However, our outward appearance does greatly affect how we feel. For instance a bad hair day can ruin any woman's mood whether or not anyone else seems to notice.

Appearance is an important part of attraction. It's the first few seconds that determine whether or not conversation will be held to find out what goes along with the facade. Women, especially those seeking out a partner, invest in that attraction. Lest we not forget that beauty is a multi-million dollar industry with Black women making sure that their "hair's done, nails done, everything did."

We continue to suck it, tuck it, sew it, push it, brush it, hide it and reveal it in order to pull the right man. If we have to do all of that, are we really attracting the right mate? What is a young Black man attracted to, anyway? And what attributes are going to help you get past the second date?

Thus, begins my quest! I am going to find out what it is that Black men want and share it with you all. What do you think?

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

Earth Girls Aren't Easy: The Weight for Love

2010-10-31T16:39:00.001-04:00

Big. Thick. Fluffy. Plus-sized. These are just some of the names we are called or call ourselves; women larger than average size, according to standards set forth by different industries.

There seems to be a different set of rules when it comes to dating for the plus set or so it's thought. It's as if we can't have another single flaw, so that we can manage to offset our stature. One must be dressed to impressed, hair always styled, have the best personality in the room and be smarter and funnier than every pretty girl within a mile radius. Our selection of men is even smaller, having hopes that the fine man across the room is interested in bigger women. And we have to avoid the ever-roaming weirdo that is interested only in the novelty of our size.

We don't have to confine ourselves to any one category of men. And we most certainly don't have to be grateful for every ounce of male attention we get. Though the media has a certain disdain for fuller figures and anyone considered overweight [check out Maura Kelly's Marie Claire article], the Black community has an appreciation for the more Rubenesque woman.

[It's evolved into an obsession with Black women everywhere disproportionately altering their bodies in glorification of tiny waists, wider hips, rounder backsides and large breasts that many of us were already born with, but I digress. That's another issue for another post on another blog.]

More Black men than we think are attracted to the abundance of curves and are interested in getting to know what is beyond the physical appearance. I still believe that a lot of men don't want to be classified as "chubby chasers" for dating a plus-sized woman, but that's neither here nor there.

The dating scene can provide the same amount of difficulty for any woman. Do you think plus-sized women have it harder in the dating world? Does the media dictate what we find attractive? Do bigger men get more love than bigger women? Just curious!

I say we big girls stay classy, stay beautiful and most of all stay ourselves. The glow is bound to attract the right one.

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

Majoring in Marriage

2010-10-27T15:38:00.001-04:00

Homecoming week has just ended at my university. The Bears led us to another victory and campus was swarming with students, alumni and visitors. Towards the end of the festivities of Saturday evening, I sat outside of our Jenkins Building for some fresh air. An older man sat next to me and asked me if I was okay. I told him that I was fine. He asked what my classification was, about my major and a range of other small-talk questions. Finally, he had asked me if I had found my husband, yet. Jokingly, I told him that I was divorced and asked him if he had found his wife.

He had. He found her in 1991 during their freshmen year. They entered Greek life at the same time and graduated together. They hadn't been apart since. It was so Bill and Camille.

This was the fantasy. The fantasy that so many young women leave for college with. Either by boyfriend with promise ring in tow or a husband-seeking missile, the fairytale ending to a college career seems to include an engagement ring.

Is it fair to us to indulge in such a legend? Women already outnumber men on most college campuses. And honestly, it's hard enough managing academics, a social life and other extracurricular activities without the joys and pains of a serious relationship.

But we want it all, the perfect schedule, the perfect internship, the perfect friends and the perfect man. There are those girls [aliens sent from another planet] that seemingly juggle it all. And those one-in-a-million, college sweetheart relationships do exist and end up in beautiful marriages. Then there are those that venture out into the world of independence after college and find the same happy relationships at 30 and 35.

I believe that there is absolutely no need to rush yourself into a relationship. My 22 year-old self looks back at my 18 year-old self entering college and shakes her head at inexperience and naivete. Yet, I'm still not prepared for the marriage route, ever teetering between the thought of white picket fences and suburban living and the fast, city, single life. Hopefully, I'll find the medium between the two; fast, city, married life would be ideal.

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

Preferences & Pedestals

2010-10-22T23:15:00.003-04:00

I mentioned that an article in the November issue of Essence is what sparked my interest in addressing Black women and relationships. Demetria L. Lucas, often referred to as the "Black Carrie Bradshaw," penned a piece entitled "Us vs. Them", questioning the reasons behind the dating preferences of Black men.

Generally, the article pointed out that Black men tend to put women of other races on a pedestal and that there preferences were based on what they didn't like about Black women. I had to agree with Ms. Lucas. I have definitely come across the complaints of Black men wishing that Black women were more supportive like white women, more coddling like Latina women or subservient like Asian women.

There is nothing wrong with an independent, opinionated, self-sufficient woman, period. There is something wrong with the fact that Black women get so much flack for having those attributes. We are not all finger-waving, neck-rolling, attitude-having harpies.

I brought the conversation to my friends, five other women and one man. There was one particular point that struck a chord for me. My friend brought up that men and women of other races are rarely ever caught up in downing their cultural counterparts in justification of their preferences. I have yet to come across the opposite, but often run into Black men looking for the "best race" to date and Black women considering dating outside of their race because Black men "ain't sh*t."

And of course there is the standard of beauty issue. Are our men suffering from "Kardashian Syndrome," in love with long hair, lighter or fair skin and exotic features and not wanting to deal with scarf-wrapped head at night? Why are the cultural behaviors of other women so preferred? That leads me to wonder if Black men appreciate the cultural behaviors of their mothers, sisters and aunts? Better yet, what are they instilling into their daughters?

I am partial to Black men, but have never completely dismissed men of other races. And I've never belittled a Black man to legitimize what I generally like about men. What's your preference?

Finally, do Black men really insult us to exalt other races of women?

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

Earth Girls Aren't Easy: The Shift

2010-10-22T00:33:00.014-04:00

I guess talking about relationships and the dynamic between men and women in general is going to require me to be a bit candid, huh? Well, here goes nothing.

I was recently emancipated from a serious relationship of almost two years. I can't pinpoint the particular moment, but there was a shift. After we incurred the dreaded "break," there was a shift in communication, in priorities and the direction of the relationship.

I wanted the same things, but on my terms. Where I felt I couldn't express myself to him, I poured out to Twitter because deep down inside I knew what I had to say wouldn't lead to anything positive. I found interest in the happenings with other people, where I should've kept my interest in him. We had our problems, like any couple, but we were still invested. We eventually wanted to be married. He tried to be a good partner, but I was detached and he knew it.

He was everything I wanted and everything I didn't want all wrapped in one. So here lies my question, why do women remain in relationships when instincts tell them otherwise? Are we afraid of sacrificing our relationships for our own feelings? And do we bury how we feel just to get by?

Looking back, I definitely believe the lingering is more painful to both parties than addressing the issues.

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

One Last Romp?

2010-10-20T13:17:00.005-04:00

I miss you, lovelies! I recently received a tweet from a fellow blogger, Mannie from FreshHonesty.com, that really touched and inspired me. I really hope he doesn't mind me talking about him! He asked me if I had visited his site, which I do regularly [his growth has been amazing]. But what really hit home for me was when he told me that he never forgot that I inspired him to start. It was that simple.

I was thinking about how amazing that is and then wondered to myself why I stopped writing. I was definitely tired of writing the entertainment randomness that I truly enjoyed, but everyone does it. I tried the natural hair stint and never got it off the ground. Mannie's comment and an article in the November issue of Essence [yes, I'm still reading Essence, don't beat me] about relationships inspired me to try a new route.

J'adore Miss Emme is taking the relationship path. I recently got out of a serious relationship and it left me examining myself, my relationship and other issues surrounding Black women and love. So let's talk about love. Are you with me?

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

I've Moved on to Manes

2010-04-17T01:15:00.000-04:00

Hello there lovelies! I am here to tell you that I've moved! I'm currently working on a new blog project called "Media Manes with Miss Emme" for you all to enjoy. It's brand new and will be getting into natural hair and it's sudden popularity in the media. Follow me here...

bisou bisou

miss.εmmε™

Shy Ronnie, Speak UP!

2009-12-12T17:55:00.000-05:00

Rihanna recently appeared on SNL and actually performed in a skit. The Shy Ronnie skit was pretty cute and played on the idea of her being an experienced singer of hooks. Take a look, lovelies.

bisou bisou

miss.εmmε™

Who's Hot

2009-12-12T17:42:00.000-05:00

I know, I know. She's been featured before, but she absolutely murdered this look in this silver, Roland Mouret mermaid dress. Zoe Saldana attended the premiere of the highly anticipated film, Avatar. The Dominican stunner plays Neytiri in the James Cameron film, in theaters December 18th.

Sorry... no fella this time around!

bisou bisou

miss.εmmε™

Gotta Love Cudi

2009-12-12T16:17:00.001-05:00

Lovelies, you all know I have an affinity for the young Scott Mescudi! To my delight the video for his latest single, Pursuit of Happiness, was recently released. It was directed by an unlikely character, Josh Hartnett and has this dope slow-mo effect, while he remains in real time. Everyone knows things cooler in slow motion [ lol ]. Well enjoy it!

Kid Cudi Pursuit Happiness

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

J'adore Him

2009-12-02T04:47:00.000-05:00

The holiday season is soon upon us and if you haven't done your shopping already, here's a couple of cool conceptual gifts for the men you adore. I ALWAYS have trouble shopping for guys, but if all the coolest guys in the world lived in my head this is what they'd get. [ lol ]

THE GROOMER

I'm sure every masculine manscaper would appreciate an authentic shave kit. I think of one of my only male cousins who appreciates an excellent haircut and well kept facial hair. This kit is from the high end company, The Art of Shaving, $150. It includes a Gillette Fusion Chrome Collection razor with pre-shave oil, shaving cream, a badger brush and after shave balm.

THE GADGET JUNKIE

Got that good guy friend who's all gadgets, but wears glasses that look like they're from the 60s? He's modern and retro all rolled in one. Personally, you couldn't go wrong with a Retro Duo SNES Console. I mean it plays all old school Nintendo SNES and NES games! I even want this, but that's just me. The console runs for about $50 at Think Geek.

Another gadget that caught my eye is for the music lover/iPod enthusiast. This is specially for someone like my significant other, who dabbles in the art of DJing. I think the iDJ iPod 2 Channel Mixer by Numark is definitely something out of the box and thoughtful. The mixer is about $160 on Amazon.

THE SHOPPER

I don't think there's ever been an age where I've been so self-conscious when it comes to buying clothing and accesories for a man. Highly fashion conscious and in the pursuit of personal style, men have become especially difficult to buy clothes for. Dad being the only exception; he always appreciates a fine tie. But this holiday season a stylish cardigan goes a long way. The grey collegiate sweater from AE is about $50. The Buffalo Plaid Sweater from the Gap, also comes in a great red color for $80.

I also think that every dapper fellow needs a pair of great cuff links. Just make sure he has the proper shirts pre-purchase. I've learned that lesson the hard way. Hmmph! David Donahue makes an array of cool cuff links that you can find at Nordstrom's and this pair of knot links are $125.

THE FOODIE

This set is for the Food Network junkies that like to experiment in the kitchen and eat really great food. And nothing could please a foodie more than premium cookware. Get your favorite guy his Iron Chef starter kit [ lol ] from Cookware.com. Calphalon's Simply Stainless II 10 pc. set, $200, will not only make him smile, but get lots of use in dinners being made for you.

And if all else fails, lovelies, can't go wrong with a gift card!

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

World AIDS Day

2009-12-01T18:39:00.000-05:00

Today, I encourage all you lovelies to spread the awareness, get educated/educate each other, know your status and continue doing your part after December 1st. I was once told when it comes to certain things the numbers are twice as much for the Black Community [i.e. unemployment]. HIV/AIDS is something that is an epidemic especially within our community. So, if I leave you with nothing else, be positive that you're negative!

Here's a couple places where you can find information:

Official World AIDS Day Website

World AIDS Campaign

Avert International AIDS Charity

Black AIDS Institute

Department of Health

bisou bisou

miss.εmmε™

Rated B-, Sorry Stans

2009-12-01T17:15:00.001-05:00

Most of you lovelies know I don't like to make judgements without seeing, hearing and experiencing for myself. And with all the hoopla surrounding Rihanna's latest addition to her discography, I had to sit down and listen to it from beginning to end.

Rihanna's PR people and Def Jam have been trying their darnedest to push this Rated R album; giving it away with pizza, selling it for $0.99 on Amazon. I mean they are literally giving this thing away. Yet, I seen tweets and other reviews saying how great the album is. Guess it was just really bad projections.

Now, I don't want to get jumped by any Rihanna stans out there. This is just my one little opinion and overall I like her manufactured style and most of her music. So, just take this with a grain of salt.

I will admit she has been taking a couple vocal lessons and just recording tracks that really suit her voice, which I'm really happy about. My favorites are definitely Stupid in Love, Russian Roulette and Photographs. In between like street & blah avenue are Cold Case Love[could be a fave on a good day], G4L, Hard and just making it is The Last Song. There's some really great writing on this album. Most tracks are really settled into the anti-love/revenge theme, which I definitely dig.

On to the least favorites/I could care less abouts/Why is this on the album; Hole in My Head, Rude Boy and Wait Your Turn. I don't really know how I feel about these tracks, but I'm sure the fans are enjoying it. Well, that's all lovelies!

bisou bisou

miss.εmmε™

Precious

2009-11-21T03:42:00.001-05:00

All the hype was absolutely worth it. The Lee Daniels film Precious is a story beautifully composed exposing a reality; young, unloved and abused living in NYC during the late 80s. Completely compelling.

This movie is humorous, heart wrenching and frank. I never read the book Push, which the film is based on, so this only tells me the book is ten times better. Gabourey Sidibe portrays this broken spirit that finally breaks through in such a triumphant way. You can't help but root for Precious. But besides the main character you get a glimpse into the lives of many of the supporting characters and begin to understand why people are the way they are.

Mo'nique does such a flawless job in playing a heartbroken mother that lets her anguish turn into hate for her own child. I hated her, pitied her and understood her all at the same time. The woman is so complex, suffering from a lot of deep emotional hang ups. And there's already Oscar buzz! I respected her as an actress in this role because she had to have pull the character from such a deep place. I believed her!!

Grab a friend, a loved one and go see Precious. You will leave theater hopeful, grateful and with a joke or two. I'd definitely see it again. Could be this generations The Color Purple and I do not say that lightly. Take a glance at the trailer, lovelies!

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

So, I Chopped All My Hair Off. Now, What?

2009-11-20T15:53:00.004-05:00

Hey lovelies. I want to apologize to you all. I was going to give up on writing this blog and I thought about writing again and again and finally got the gall to continue. J'adore Miss.Emme will be continuing. No more major hiatuses! Promise!

So, back to the story!! As you know I've been transitioning on this quest to natural hair. Anyone who knows me also knows that I'm a little bit of a control freak and a bit on the impatient side [hey! everyone has their flaws, right?].

With this desperation to be free of permed ends, I strolled into my bathroom and commenced in cutting off my own hair. I made the first few snips and thought "what the hell am I doing!?!?" Yet, I couldn't stop and the further I got I realized there was no turning back.

When I was done I was scared, I was shocked at myself and I honestly thought I made a huge mistake. I kept a hat on for a few days only sent pictures and warnings to certain people lol. But I slowly and surely grew to love it more and more.

It's healthy, strong, soft and really cute. Oh, I can't forget well taken care of. Plus, I can wear a lot more cool hair accessories. I'm proud to be natural and loving my big chop more and more everyday!

bisou bisou

miss.εmmε™

I Heart the Obamas

2009-09-28T12:26:00.008-04:00

Just had to post this one flick of the Barack & Michelle Obama attending the Congressional Black Caucus Dinner. They are an absolutely stunning couple. [sigh]

bisou bisou

miss.εmmε™

Fall in Love with Autumn

2009-09-27T17:15:00.000-04:00

With autumn literally being around the corner, we're pretty much overdue for a Top Ten Back to School Necessities list. So, here we go lovelies, my personal list of what's hot for the fall season.

Oversized Cardigans
Natural Hair & Healthy Hair
Boyfriend/Weekend Jeans
Loafers & Mocassins
The Blueprint 3 on iTunes
Boyfriend Blazers
Books Dedicated to Women by Male Authors [i.e. Letters to a Young Sister]
Working Out/ Healthy Living
Leather Jackets
Community Service

And a bonus item flat boots are a timeless staple in any fall wardrobe, whether cognac colored, western inspired or in a luxurious suede.

This hot pair is the Sheriff from Nine West. Defintely a great look!

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

Live for It!

2009-09-19T13:59:00.000-04:00

All you lovelies who grew up in the '90s remember Auntie Whit as the QUEEN of R&B crossover. You just wanted to dance with somebody and find endless love. And when she married Bobby, you thought it's not right, but it's okay! She was our queen of the night, our preacher's wife and we all waited for her to exhale. She finally did.

The diva herself, Whitney Houston, has risen from the ashes [no pun intended] and is finally making her highly anticipated comeback. If you've seen the Oprah interview, you can sense the change in her energy and I love it. I Look to You was released just in time to be considered for the Grammys and the official first single "Million Dollar Bill" finally has a video. I LIVE for this Swizz Beatz produced, A.Keys written track. And she looks great!

bisou bisou

miss.εmmε™

Who's Hot

2009-09-10T14:02:00.005-04:00

Let's get right into it, lovelies!!

The Queen of Hip Hop Soul is just doing the most right now! Mary J. Blige is starring in the newest Tyler Perry film, I Can Do Bad All By Myself. I was going to give it to Taraji, but then I remembered Mary's gorgeous Essence cover for the October issue. Here she is at the movies premiere donning all white with her ever-glowing skin.

He's featured on The Blueprint 3 and has his own album, Man on the Moon, dropping on September 15th. Scott Mescudi, known to us as Kid Cudi is doing his promotional thing headed to the Late Show taping. I love his I-stay-up-all-night, but-I'm-good look and he's a Twitterhead, so you gotta love him. Added an extra flick just because I think it's cute. : ]

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Random Celeb Junk

2009-09-09T15:38:00.004-04:00

Hey lovelies, here's a random purging of stuff I've heard, seen and read in that last couple days.

A queen of lace fronts, only second to Beyonce, has finally revealed to her audience what her real hair looks like. That's right, after all that unnecessary anticipation, Auntie Tyra showed us all that she's got a head full of hair. I know I am not alone when I say I was waiting for about ear length hair that probably wouldn't make it into to ponytail [kinda like Eve]. Next!

Maia Campbell's crazy, crackhead/schizo video was all over the net and everyone was like, "DAMN!! She was effin them ketchup chips up!!" Another pretty, quasi-talented Black woman gone to waste. She's already been in treatment before and she continues to use drugs knowing of her reactions with her bipolar disorder/depression. I'll pray for her along with the rest of the crackheads roaming around Baltimore. [here's the video] Jesus, take the wheel!

LaLa Vasquez dropped her website.. for what? Next!

Speaking of LaLa, her brother Ludacris was getting his philanthropy on and gave away 20 cars to unfortunate families. That's a wonderful gesture, but a friend infiltrated my mind with the thought, "If they're unfortunate, how are they going to maintain these cars? Who's paying the insurance? And what about gas?" Who knows?

Nicole Ritchie gave birth to a baby boy named, Sparrow James Midnight Madden. Enough said...

And no, Lauren London has not dropped her baby gremlin, yet.

Another Black man placing his hands on a woman is so disappointing. Allegedly, football player Shawne Merriman choked the hell out his girlfriend, Tila Tequila. Smh, she's like 2 lbs soaking wet and he's going to jail. My face would've looked like this, too...

Well that's all, lovelies!!

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So, They Were For Real

2009-09-09T14:26:00.002-04:00

As you lovelies know, when Teddy Graham and Christina Milian got together I thought it was about as random and nutty as Nick Cannon and Mariah. But just like Nick and Mariah, these two were serious and supposedly had a quickie wedding in Vegas last Friday. The rumor mills are buzzing about C.Mili being pregnant with a mini-graham, too. Ugh, this is all too weird to me, they are so random!! Anywho, Nivea uber-pregnant self is probably regretting that she went back to that gremlin, only to be his 973,453,245th baby mother.

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Can't Hear the Angels on This One

2009-09-09T13:31:00.003-04:00

My boo and I were into Dirty Money's "Angels" upon hearing it. We even spent a minute imagining what the video would be like... Black and white shots, Diddy walking on the street in the rain. We were close, but no cigar. And when I found out that the illustrious Hype Williams would be directing alongside with Diddy's over-the-top visions, I thought I was in for a treat. Wrong! This video is so parched!! I mean I get it, but it's late as almighty. I swear I've seen it already. Anyway, you lovelies let me know how you feel about it. Take a glance.

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It'll Make You Slap Yo Mama!

2009-09-07T19:37:00.002-04:00

I was spending a quiet evening with my roommate and our apartment's frequenters and they were all enveloped in this joke that I had no clue about. So, they exposed me to the video I'm about to share with you lovelies. I laughed at first, then I thought, "not my mother" and then I thought, "wow, he's still alive." Well, with that said, enjoy!

"How does it feel? How does it feel to be told, 'Shut Up'?!?" Would've been bloody murder at my house!

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miss.εmmε™

Divas Love Tacos, Too

2009-09-07T19:05:00.005-04:00

So, I'm reading Concrete Loop and there goes Great Auntie Di strutting with her Taco Bell and leopard print flats. I'll eternally love her crazy self and iDie for that wild mane of hers. I can just see her busting down some soft tacos with extra sour cream on the side, all regular-like. But that sweatshirt/cardigan, Jesus take the wheel!! But, if she likes it, I love it. Long live Ms. Ross.

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miss.εmmε™

The Student's Lament

2009-09-06T14:40:00.006-04:00

Students from all over the nation can relate to administration issues, from financial aid delays to lack of housing and anything else you can name. HBCUs are not the only schools that struggle with these kind of concerns, TWIs do as well. However, the students of the famed HBCU, Howard University, were not going to take it anymore.

Word about a student protest had spread throughout the internet. My first encounter was on Twitter with Diddy asking for details about his alma mater. Then, I read J. Dakar's entry on Concrete Loop and an article on the Washington Post website.

About 350 students rallied in protest Friday morning at their administration building and even threatened a sit-in. I'm sure my fellow Morganites can relate to standing in long lines in any given office in Montebello or trekking to Truth Hall demanding to know what happened to your funds/schedule/housing after you've done everything that you were supposed to do. Everyone knows it gets as serious as keeping security at our financial aid office. Our complaints aren't all that different.

More power to the Howard Students and staff that had their voice heard last Friday.

[photo via washingtonpost.com]

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miss.εmmε™

Fergie + Shoes= The Business

2009-09-06T14:17:00.003-04:00

I had been wondering about that shoe line that Fergie was talking about in that HP commercial. [remember that?] I had no clue that it was already out. Not impressed by some of the shoes, but this one really caught my eye. This funky, neutral conception retails for about $100. I dig it. Can you?

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miss.εmmε™

Who's Gonna Run This Town?

2009-08-20T14:23:00.008-04:00

I have been a long time Jay-Z fan and a huge fan of the second single off of the upcoming Blueprint 3. The song, "Run This Town," is one of those love it or hate it tracks, anyone in between doesn't really care about music. And anyone who has a crew of people surrounding them that are planning, hard working, grinding or just good at what they do, can feel this song. It's all about a takeover, so what do you run?

Watching this video you can see how Jay-Z has evolved from "Big Pimpin" to the now. The concept is clear cut, the esthetic is dark, it's straight to the point and all about the uprising. Vive la revolution!! I mess with this video!

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miss.εmmε™

Diva on a Dime

2009-08-19T16:03:00.005-04:00

With Morgan's semester about to begin, who better to be my newest Diva on a Dime, but a fellow Morganite. Introducing....

Name: Briana bka Brieyonce LOL.

Age: 20
Hometown: Middletown, Delaware

What makes you a Diva on a Dime?: I'm all about style and all about saving. I call it being a Recessionista. I study high fashion magazines and scope out duplicates at bargain stores. I'm not afraid to shop at discount stores. If it's cute, it's cute. No one's looking at my tags.

What's your personal style?: Urban Chic, when the catwalk meets the sidewalk.

Closet Must haves: Cardigans, tanks & tees and classic black pumps.

Favorite spots to shop: Forever21, H&M, Target, Old Navy, Bakers.

Spots to chill: Lounges and bars.

How do you save?: I save buy shopping online and at cheap trendy stores.

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miss.εmmε™

To Be or Not to Be?: Natural Hair Edition

2009-08-18T19:19:00.013-04:00

While being green, eco-friendly and all about Mother Earth is becoming more and more widespread, I've decided to apply the concept of naturality to myself in another sense. Going natural is never an easy decision to make, simply because the process itself is a journey. And with my second attempt to embrace the curly goodness that I was born with, I've found inspiration in my family, friends and the good ole internets, lol.

One of my Leading Ladies/N-Sistas from Morgan has recently began documenting her journey and had being doing it with so much personality. Miss Donna Jenay herself [read her blog] has made transitioning about dating your hair. She's all about getting to know her hair, it's likes and dislikes and loving her hair. Girl, yes!

My Mom, sister and Auntie Marie all have locs and I've always appreciated their beautiful hair. My best friend, Diana, has also been transitioning [longer than I have], but is handling it in a different approach. I mostly wear my hair out and she, being the more clever, has found a home in the kinky twist protective style. But we're both learning how to take care of our God-given hair.

Every now and then I'll give an update on the progress of my hair, struggles, products and all that jazz lol. No more creamy crack!!

In spirit of all this hair talk, here's the trailer for Chris Rock's Good Hair. Enjoy!

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miss.εmmε™

Who's Hot

2009-07-09T18:42:00.003-04:00

Hey lovelies and gents! Once again the difficult task of selecting this week's hot celebs falls upon little ole me.

Coming across this lady was fairly easy. One of my favorites, Solange appeared at an OP launch event [love the pink lip], being as she's featured in the fashion company's "Summer of Music." She also recently appeared at San Francisco's Pride wearing a metallic, rainbow catsuit, but you gotta love that girl.

If I could, I would make it Common, every week. I can, but I won't do that to you lovelies. Drumroll...... for the gentleman of the moment. The grown man sexy that is Idris Elba [aka DJ Big Dris the Londoner] landed on the cover of the August issue of Essence. The man is just fine and the accent doesn't bother me none, either.

He looks even better in the photos inside, but I digress!!

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miss.εmmε™

MK Links Takes on NYC

2009-07-09T18:05:00.004-04:00

MK Links Model Management began as a Dallas based agency headed by my dear friend Mahiri Takai. The company does a lot of HIV/ AIDS awareness events and even has a t-shirt line to help the cause by the name of Tested Negative. Mahiri's fashion based enterprise has grown so much that the company will soon have a commercial base in New York City. I'm insanely excited for my friend and I want you to help him celebrate!!

The MK Links Agency will be having an amazing launch party on Saturday, July 18th at Le Royale at 9pm. The event is hosted by VH1's Glam God winner Indashio and I'm sure you'll be suprised at the guess list. So, make your way there next Saturday, lovelies!

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miss.εmmε™

Baby Talk

2009-07-09T16:05:00.009-04:00

Finally!! A couple of rumored celeb pregnancies were confirmed for us in the past week. I'm sure you lovelies had already heard that Jennifer Hudson had a baby shower a while back and was still denying her pregnancy. And you've barely seen her since. She made an appearance at Michael Jackson's memorial service this past Tuesday, looking ready to drop! And she sannnggg that Free Willy song!

Another mommy-to-be that came out from her hiding place was Lauren London. Rumor is she's pregnant with Weezy F's baby and apparently at the same time as on and off girlfriend Nivea. [She messed up when she left The-Dream]. But anywho, she made an appearance at Diddy's fourth of July white party.

Last, but definitely not least Raven Symone and ex Jussie Smollet [Jurnee Smollet's older brother] recently had a baby girl, named Lilianna Pearman in an Atlanta Hospital. I know right, lovelies! Who knew?!? Supposedly, this is the newborn baby girl. [photo removed]

EDIT: It appears that That's So Raven's camp is saying she did not have a baby nor was she ever pregnant. Supposedly, she's a new auntie. Still, who knows?

Well, that's more than enough baby talk for one day. Good luck to these young mothers!

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miss.εmmε™

Diva on a Dime

2009-07-03T13:26:00.004-04:00

This is a new feature that I'm bringing to you lovelies. We are most definitely in a recession [RIP Vibe Magazine], so why not share ways you save money while still being a diva!

Name: Diana
Age: 21
Hometown: Brooklyn, NY

What makes you a Diva on a Dime?: I'll scour the world for sales and bargains. Signing up for email notifications is my best friend! You'd be amazed how many coupons and free events you'll receive just for signing up for a free newsletter.

What's your personal style?: Urban Prep

Favorite spots to shop: Old Navy, Forever 21, Payless.

Closet Must Haves: Cardigans and flip-flops!

Spots to chill: Clubs and Lounges.

How do you save?: Look through the clearence and sale sections. Also, shopping online. Believe it or not there are a lot of online-exclusives and stores like Old Navy and the Gap combine shipping for a flat rate. I'm signed up at alltheparties.com and they send me invites to different clubs and lounges. By RSVPing I can get into some of New York's hottest spots for free.

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miss.εmmε™

Entertainment Rundown

2009-07-03T11:40:00.004-04:00

Just some random Hollywood happenings and of course my input!

♠ I can go on and on about how trash the BET Awards were, but I barely have the energy. But I will say this!

-Jamie, the all purpose host, smh pick a job
-Performances were dry, with the exception of Soulja Boy, the entire Ojay's tribute and performance, Jay, Maxwell & Ne-Yo.
-Who let Ciara sing? She can dance, let her do that.
-I'm still curious as to what Beyonce was going to do prior to MJ's passing. DRY!
-Commericals were wild, everyone has a show. When am I getting mine?
-MJ tributes could've been way better, period!

♠ Next up, the dreaded Drake video. The highly anticipated "Best I Ever Had" video was finally released and I must say it's a love or hate situation. The storyline of the video was clever, but the correlation to the song was barely there. Kanye's cinematography was enjoyable, but there were more than enough breasts in that video. My opinion? Better luck next time, I'm sure I'll "thank him later." Take a look for yourself.

♠ No, I have not seen the Tiny & Toya show. I think I'm subconsciously boycotting that show. I've had more than enough BET intake as it is. It's time to gain my IQ points back.

♠ Usher is questioning the paternity of his younger son, Naviyd. Smh, not suprised.

Well, that's all for now lovelies. Au revoir!

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miss.εmmε™

An Icon Leaves Us

2009-06-26T18:11:00.003-04:00

I am close to positive that all of you lovelies were just as shocked as I was when you heard word that the King of Pop, Michael Jackson, passed away. At the age of 50, the mega-star underwent cardic arrest at UCLA Hospital and was pronounced dead yesterday just before 3pm. He had just announced that he would be doing a comback tour entitled, This Is It.

Michael Jackson is the defintion of an icon. One of the only artist to be inducted into the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame twice, 13 Grammys, 13 #1 singles and cited in the Guinness Book of World Records as the "Most Successful Entertainer of All Time," the man just couldn't be touched. Performing and entertaining for nearly four decades, Michael Jackson has influenced the world with his artistry and philanthropy. You can see and hear his influence in artists like Ne-Yo, Chris Brown, The-Dream and Usher, just to name a few.

I was sitting in my living room with my mom when I heard the news and just as I was sitting there in shock, my phone rang. It wasn't my best friend or anyone from college or even a family member, but an old friend from high school. She was a huge MJ fan, just like I was and recalled the conversation we had about 6 years prior about being a part of the generation that would recall the time that Michael Jackson would die. We never thought that the passing day that our generation's Elvis would come so soon. It was surreal.

Michael Jackson was a huge portion of my music intake during my childhood. I remember begging for my mom to put on his records [yes, I said records] back to back and just dancing and singing for my parents. Not to mention the VHS tapes full of his videos and live concerts that I would never get tired of. And I wouldn't dare forget how sensitive he was as the Scarecrow in the Wiz. I could only imagine all the memories that are attached to all of the work he's accomplished in his time.

Though the King of Pop lived most of his life under the scrutiny of the public eye, I hope that he's finally resting up in music heaven with Ray Charles, Aaliyah and other industry greats. Michael Jackson will never be forgotten.

Michael Joseph Jackson
August 29, 1958 - June 25, 2009

My all time favorite Michael video, Remember the Time... the FULL version

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miss.εmmε™

Who's Hot

2009-06-12T01:54:00.004-04:00

This week's hot celebs came to me much easier than last weeks. So, lovelies we give it to...

The ever stunning Gabrielle Union wearing this stunning red gown at the 4th Annual Children Uniting Nations Gala in D.C. The woman just doesn't age.

Always on his grown man fly, Common, is just out and about. Here he's out promoting the new fragrance Only the Brave, released by Diesel. Gotta love that man.

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Divorce Report

2009-06-11T21:39:00.007-04:00

Once again, another Black Hollywood couple is unravelling before us. Rumors of Usher Raymond and Tameka Foster's separation have been around for a while now, but In Touch Weekly has confirmed the beginning of a divorce process between the two.

The former couple has only been married for two years and has been separated for one. Usher and Tameka have two children together Usher V, 18 months and Naviyd, 6 months. Supposedly, he's been seen slinking around with Grace Miguel, a Island Def Jam staffer.

Hey, another one bites the dust..

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miss.εmmε™

Technological Birth... Project Natal

2009-06-09T22:23:00.002-04:00

Trust and believe that the Wii will not be able to compete with Xbox 360's upcoming Project Natal. Controllers? You are the controller, with voice recognition and motion detection and scanning features for this system. Honestly, that kind of technology is kind of scary [i.e. Eagle Eye, I-Robot]. Check out the video on how it works.

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miss.εmmε™

It's Simple Scienze

2009-06-09T22:12:00.005-04:00

Here's a little indie introduction for you lovelies. Brooklyn-bred artist, Scienze, is a believer in authentic artistry, true lyricism and has a passion for the art of music. Only 22 and straight out of Crown Heights, Scienze wants to see the return of real Hip-Hop. Check out this video of him doing the track "Autopilot" off of his mixtape, The Dopeness Vol.1.

Feelin it? Check out his myspace @ myspace.com/scienze. BTW that's my brother! lol

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miss.εmmε™

Random Moments

2009-06-08T17:57:00.004-04:00

At first, I thought "ahh good ole reckless Kim." Then I was like eww is that T-Pain? Lmao! I don't know about you lovelies, but I was a little on the grossed out side. You guys think she let him download? ROTFL...

And I came across this pic of Mario at Pleasure P's album release pool party on CL and had the most shallow moment ever! Mario has ugly nipples....smh. Don't judge me!

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miss.εmmε™

You're a Jerk

2009-06-06T15:53:00.002-04:00

Soooo, since everyone is sweatin Jay-Z's new track, "Death of Autotune [D.O.A.]," I'll put you lovelies on to something a little more exclusive. Don't beat me! I'm a hugeeeeee Jigga fan and I'll be waiting on Blueprint 3 just like everyone else, but since it leaked last night its been back to back rotation and on every blog I know.

With that I'm taking it to the West Coast with a duo called the New Boyz, straight out of L.A. Apparently, the jerkin movement is finally getting some mainstream recognition. Here's a video of the group giving their take on jerkin.

And here it is, "You're a Jerk" by the New Boyz. Enjoy!

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miss.εmmε™

Who's Hot

2009-06-04T01:28:00.005-04:00

Yes lovelies, it's that time again! It actually took me a while to figure out who my hot celebs were going to be for this week, but I've come to a conclusion. [ d r u m r o l l ]

This one is a 50/50 between the hype and the looks. New Chi-town R&B crooner on the scene, Jeremih has made the cut. By no means am I a big fan of his hit single "Birthday Sex" [don't hate me], but I have to give him the cute pass.

This is where I had become really pensive, but when it comes down to it it had to be the gorgeous Dania Ramirez! The Dominican actress is Kelis' best friend and engaged to video director Jesse Terrero. She's starred in X-Men: The Last Stand and plays Maya in one of my fave shows, Heroes.

Well, that's all folks!

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miss.εmmε™

Spec Real Sus

2009-06-01T20:15:00.005-04:00

So, I take it by now that everyone has seen the video of Pretty Ricky's own Spectacular challenging Bow Wow, Chris Brown and others to a "grind challenge." The challenge is not what I found suspect about the video. Not even his grinding and rolling was suspect to me, being that it was vaguely reminiscent of a J Smoov video [youtube it]. It was the little red briefs. Like, where are you going with those? Where do you even buy those? I honestly couldn't even hear the music simply because I was about to choke and die from laughing at "Spec" and his red panties.

You all know I'm a lovemuffin so, I recently watched a video posted by B.Scott in response to Spectacular's sus performance. Humorous by all means. Next thing you know we're gonna catch Spectacular doing the paw-paw. Take a look-see.

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miss.εmmε™

Okay, Beyoncé... Okay

2009-06-01T18:38:00.006-04:00

Now, I hope my lovelies that are Beyoncé stans* don't fry me on this one! I'm a fan of Mrs. Carter as much as the next girl, but I would like to personally request a new video.

"Single Ladies" was released and I liked it a lot. Straight forward, clean and simple with an obvious ode to Broadway styles and of course J-setting. When "Diva" was released I thought, "Single Ladies" part deux? Nonetheless, it was another women's anthem, so I let it go. Most recently, the video for "Ego" was put into rotation and I feel bamboozled.

I mean, she still looks great and the dancing is still hot, but I was waiting for something new. I understand it's supposed to be themed with those specific songs being on the Sasha Fierce side, but it's getting boring. I know it's a recession and all, but three singles for one video? Come on, is it just me?

Just an observation...see for yourself.

[stan = a stalker fan ]

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miss.εmmε™

How to Be a Lady

2009-06-01T17:28:00.004-04:00

There's a new girl group in town and you've got to love them. Think a new millennium adaptation of Prince's Vanity 6. Four gorgeous girls & funky vocals + racy lyrics & cool choreography = Electrik Red. Binkie and Leslie are both New York natives, like myself, while Sarah and Naomi both hail from Toronto. Signed under Def Jam with writing and production from The-Dream and Tricky Stewart, this group is bringing edgy R&B back to light.

With the constant rise and fall of girl groups, they just seem to come and go. However, The-Dream's new ensemble is trying to remain on the scene. A teaser video was released for the song "Drink in My Cup" last winter and they've been slowly, but surely working their way up. Electrik Red's official first single, "So Good" already has a remix with Lil Wayne and really cute video in rotation.

Look for Electrik Red's album, How to Be a Lady Vol. 1, already out in stores. I'm sure you'll find a summer anthem or two on there.

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miss.εmmε™

Disney's First Black Princess

2009-06-01T16:10:00.004-04:00

After all these years, Disney is finally going to release a traditional animated film with an African American princess. This may not be a big deal to most, but for a lover of Disney classics like myself it most definitely is. The Princess & the Frog is going to be an American fairytale based in New Orleans with a princess by the name of Tiana [go figure]. Actress Anika Noni Rose, of Broadway and Dreamgirls fame, will be the voice of the lead role and Oprah Winfrey voices the character Eudora, the princess' mother.

Though the film is chock full of stereotypes, I'm really excited to take all my little cousins to see what I hope to become a household classic. Honestly, the closest thing we've had to an African American lead in an animated Disney film was Simba... and he was a lion. So, come December make your way to theaters with the fam and see The Princess & the Frog!

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miss.εmmε™

Slackerific!!

2009-06-01T14:07:00.004-04:00

I know I've been more than dissappointing to you all, but I'm back again. Between finals, laptop issues, and finally going home, a month has already passed! However, I will slack on you no more!! Got a lot in store for you lovelies out there!

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miss.εmmε™

Oh Em Gee!

2009-05-01T01:04:00.003-04:00

One of my favorite couples is officially en route of divorce!! Nas and Kelis [who's 7 months pregnant] have officially filed for divorce and it was confirmed about 7 hours ago. They've only been married three years, but it seemed so much longer. Nas and Kelis were that perfect, quirky, Bigga* alternative couple. Guess nothing's really what it seems like.

There had been rumors of Kelis cheating on Nas with rapper/producer Infra-Red a while back. Not to mention the rumors about Nas cheating on Kelis as well. Vibe has a copy of the divorce papers up and it cites "verbal abuse" and "infidelity." And to think he has that tattoo of her on his arm, smh. So, I take it no one's gonna match up to Will and Jada, huh?

Please note the naked Kelis on his right arm!

But I loved them while they lasted...sigh.

*[Bigga = Jay-Z & Beyonce a.k.a Bey & Jigga= Bigga. I swear I didn't come up with it on my own!]

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miss.εmmε™

Who's Hot

2009-04-30T17:39:00.005-04:00

Hey lovelies! It's that time again. Here are my picks for this week's Who's Hot!

Hot Female Celeb of the Week is.....

Chrisette Michele! Just a shot of her arriving to a show in ATL. Her look here is super clean, simple and effortless. That's what makes it so hot. I love it. Don't forget Epiphany drops May 5th.

This weeks Hot Celeb Male is....

The ever-so-sexy, Tyson Beckford! The man rides around the Village in NYC sans helmet, pretending not to be seen. Even with all the rumors about him and this fake candid shot, you cannot deny the man's sex appeal.

:: Credits to awesome Concrete Loop for the flicks ::

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miss.εmmε™

B. Scott says... Do You!

2009-04-29T13:53:00.007-04:00

Anyone who knows miss.εmmε™ knows that she is a fan of the internet personality, B. Scott. Just call me a lovemuffin ! He recently did a post addressing society and its perception of gay people, specifically amongst people of color. Being that I had just had a conversation of the same caliber with someone very close to me, I thought I'd share this video. He makes a lot of points that I agree with. If not enlightened at least you'll be entertained. B. Scott just has that personality.

miss.εmmε™'s got love for the LGBT community. Later lovelies!

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miss.εmmε™

MTB4!!...Out the Door?

2009-04-24T11:06:00.008-04:00

Now, everyone and their mother tuned into MTV last night to watch the season finale of Making the Band 4. I don't know about anyone else, but I do know I watch to see what foolishness and pointless stories would leave the mouths of the girls that used to be Danity Kane.

We can all say that Day26 was not even all that memorable and the performances were subpar. But Q's dance lessons did pay off [lol] and wth was up with Will's patent leather/snakeskin/shiny-as-hell hat and jacket. I'm just saying.

Donnie Klang? Another Bad Boy slave. Point blank, period.

Now for the lovely young ladies formerly known as Danity Kane. DWoods was just rude the entire night and what was that on her head! But I'm extremely glad she stopped wearing sneakers with dresses. Dawn looked a million times better with the haircut. There was an insane amount tension between Dawn and Aubrey, so much so that Dawn switched seats with DWoods. Aubrey, Aubrey, Aubrey... I love her and hate her at the very same time. Seems that she's finalized her transition from normal person to Barbie. Shannon didn't get a word in edge wise. And lastly, Aundrea didn't bother to show and that says a lot. But my final conclusions are that...

DWoods: thought her getting kicked out of the was about her and it really wasn't. And she's got a crazy ego [note her need to call Dawn out on a solo project before she plugged her own]. She definitely has something to prove.

Dawn: Everyone saw it coming... solo projects. The End.

Aubrey: I would really like to know who gave her a show and found it hilarious that Diddy declared he wanted a cut. DK was just a stepping stone for her and she knew that from the beginning. Why didn't anyone else?

Shannon: She just wanted her life back.

Aundrea: Clearly, she was content with her career as part of DK and her music career will have ended there as well. I'd be surprised if she became successful with any type of solo project.

With that, I'm ready for Making the Band 5. How about you?

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

Miss Monroe for Ya!

2009-04-24T09:51:00.002-04:00

If you're my FB friend, you've probably seen this quote, but I really like it. So, I decided to share it with you lovelies! Miss Marilyn Monroe let it slip through her lips.

"Sometimes good things fall apart, so that better things can fall together."

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

Brand New: Who's Hot

2009-04-23T02:33:00.004-04:00

Hey lovelies! Got a feature for you all. Every week I'll be posting the hot male and female celebs that are out and about. And always feel free to submit who you think is "Who's Hot" worthy.

This week's hot female celeb is [drumroll....] Zoe Saldana. In this pic she was out in Berlin promoting Star Trek. The red, asymmetrical dress is bad on the former ballerina.

This week's hot male celeb is the Louis Vuitton Don himself, Mr. West! This is one of the few promo shots for his line of Louis footwear featuring model/girlfriend Amber Rose. It's hot.

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

Summer Trend #1 : Brights

2009-04-21T13:12:00.005-04:00

Now, bright colors for summer isn't really a trend, but more of a tradition. So let's see where the brights are for Summer '09. So, here we go:

#1 Nails: Now crazy colored nails have been hot for a minute, due to the likes of Rihanna and others, but this trend seeped right through into this summer season. My personal suggestion, don't be afraid to try white. It's clean, bright and still funky, without blinding the public.

#2 Patterns: Bright, abstract and floral patterns have landed themselves on summer dresses and lightweight blouses everywhere. Paired with thin cardigan or a great solid short, you're ready for a casual evening out. Even tossing a bright, patterned silk scarf will turn an outfit up.

#3 Hair: Shorter, brighter hair seems to happen every summer whether it be an overall color change or some simple highlights. This winter I went dark and short, but this summer seems to bring on the longer styles as well. I mean, everyone is growing out their Rihanna haircuts lol.

So, lovelies look out for Summer Trend #2 coming soon.

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

Till the Casket Drops

2009-04-20T18:32:00.002-04:00

The Clipse hasn't been in the limelight for a minute now and I personally miss them. Lord Willin', released Summer 2002, gave the Clipse a couple of hits, including "Grindin" and "When's the Last Time." They even got some shine on JT's single "Like I Love You." Hell Hath No Fury didn't really pop in sales as their second album, but was a well respected effort and got a lot of critical acclaim as a real Hip-Hop album. Not to mention "Mr. Me Too" was definitely one of faves in '06. Now, the Hip-Hop duo has released the Kanye West assisted "Kinda Like a Big Deal" off of their upcoming album, Till the Casket Drops. I mess with it! Check it out below!

And just as an added treat, I'll toss in a throwback video... "Wamp, Wamp" ft. Slim Thug. Enjoy!

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

Trekkie Mode

2009-04-17T15:50:00.003-04:00

I am so not into the galatic battles of any troupes in outer space, but I must say that the Star Trek trailers have been enticing. Directed by J.J. Abrams with a May 8th release, the movie is supposed to give insight to the very beginning of the USS Enterprise crew. Also, you get a glimpse of the early life of Captain James Tiberius Kirk played by Chris Pine. Zachary Quinto from Heroes [loveeee that show], plays Spock and one of my favorite girls, Zoe Saldana plays the alluring Nyota Uhura. The remake hits theatres May 8, 2009, check it out!

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

Miss.Emme Makes the News

2009-04-17T13:27:00.004-04:00

Okay, maybe I didn't make the news. However, my good friend Miss Sophomore Tiffany Mercer-Robbins [or Lady Essence as the blogging world knows her] asked if she could interview me as her newsworthy person for her class. Never thought of myself as newsworthy, but I thought why not. Read the entry and listen to the interview at her blog Lady Essence's Scoop «╝ that's a link lovelies.

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

Like, Where've You Been?

2009-04-11T12:19:00.002-04:00

Everyone's been asking, where's miss.εmmε™, where's miss.εmmε™? And what is up with no updates? Well, I'm right here lovelies! And the updates will follow.

Morgan State University has been providing my life with more than enough unnecessary drama. I've learned a couple lessons from this week:

1-People will do things sheerly because they have the power to.
2-People love power.
3-People will make things about them, when it has nothing to do with them [such a huge ego!].
4-At the end of it all, when all these terrific people do what they do, you just have to continue to do what you do! [RELOADED]

Now, that that's over let's get to the good stuff!

Special Happy Birthday to one of my favorite munchkins! Happy 5th Birthday, Tivon!

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

The Xcitement of Love

2009-04-04T18:06:00.001-04:00

Just a little something we're developing! A friend of mine, Kemoy "Xcitement" Martin, Mr. Senior elect is currently single and looking. So, my friends and I think we can find him a nice young lady! We bring to you.... Xcitement of Love! Stay tuned for the details...

bisou bisou

miss.εmmε™

Disney Princesses Attack!!

2009-04-04T14:54:00.003-04:00

Okay, everyone already knows Facebook is the devil, right? But I get this random friend request from a "Cinderella Gimmemyglasslipper" and a Snow White character. (There's a Rapunzel, too. Go figure.) Thinking nothing of it I added them as friends. I mean, who doesn't like Cinderella?

Next thing you know I get a group request for "The Morgan Men Grade Book." If curiousity killed the cat, I must have been screaming bloody murder because I definitely joined the group just to see the madness. Good enough, they had an array of some of the Greek men of Morgan's campus with number grades! Can you say specific? Now, some people had really good grades, some fairly nice grades and some weren't even passing, smh. But it's not just the Greeks, there was definitely a disclaimer saying all types of men were going to be up for grading and they've been asking which men you'd like see in the "Book." It's a little mean, but entertaining none-the-less. The tables have clearly turned and the men have been put to the test, literally! I say check it out and boys if you're brave enough...

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

And the Winner Is...

2009-04-03T15:14:00.001-04:00

With Junior Week winding down, the Miss Bold & Beautiful pageant and Outstanding Morgan Women Banquet have come and gone.

The pageant went over really well and people are already asking if there's going to be another. As contestant number 3 (lol), I thought it went about as well as it was going to go. And I love my B&B girls! Miss Ashia Davis took home the crown, congrats. The other young ladies that placed were Makeba Belton and Sherika Anthony, respectively.

Now, the Outstanding Morgan Women Banquet is a huge honor that's not as well known on campus. But it means a lot to be nominated by your peers and seen as outstanding by the men of the Junior class. This year I was honored to be nominated for Outstanding Junior Woman by one of my favorite freshmen, Aqua and Outstanding Morgan Woman of the Year by my awesome roommate Nicole. Anyone who was there notices I wasn't in the latter category, lol. But I digress! I have to commend Aaron Sinclair, my Mr. Junior along with the men of all that classes that came together and give us a beautiful banquet of a Breakfast at Tiffany's theme. Lovely!

[sorry for the lack of flicks... eh]

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

We Love to See You Smile

2009-03-26T15:55:00.003-04:00

Funny little video! I'm a huge Pharrell Williams fan and came across this video on YouTube of him trying his hardest to get this McDonald's in Paris to open early for him. The man just wanted some Mickey D's!! Enjoy!

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

It's Carnaval

2009-03-25T12:43:00.003-04:00

Okay, I first spotted these ridiculously fabulous shoes in the beginning of February on Keyshia Cole. And I must say one cannot go wrong with a red-soled Louboutin pump! Had to give the heavily petaled shoe some shine. The Spring 2009 Christian Louboutin Carnaval looks even better on!

Must show love to Concrete Loop, they're the best!

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

Abra Cadabra

2009-03-24T13:14:00.006-04:00

I made myself reappear! Sorry for the lack of updates but here are some new videos to feast your eyes upon that I'm diggin right now. First up Ciara ft. JT, Love, Sex & Magic. Catchy lil pop tune, sexy video, might be a hit.

Next up is Keri Hilson ft. Kanye & Ne-Yo, I'm really feeling this song right now. Plus, Keri is just a really beautiful girl in an esthetically pleasing video. And it actual works with the theme of the song, which a lot of artist have been slipping on trying to be overly artistic. If you're a Keri Hilson fan, make sure you check out "Make Love" as well.

Oh, and I've got to make mention of the "Stay Up (Viagra)" video, 88 Keys & Kanye. Hilarity!

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

Okay so...

2009-03-20T12:42:00.003-04:00

Does anyone else find it weird that The-Dream is dating Christina Milian? Like WTF...

There was some buzz that him and Kanye were supposed to work a joint album a la "Best of Both Worlds," but Mr. West told The-Dream to step his celebrity game up before they took that chance. Was this his step up? Uh... idk. Not to hate, Christina Milian is gorgeous [before the blonde hair], but she's not all that relevant. Maybe he should try a change in stylist, just a thought.

Speaking of Christina Milian, what is up with the blonde!! It's nuts to me. Anywho, before dating The-Dream, she was in a long term relationship with Dre of the producing team Cool&Dre. I don't know if it's a step up or down for her. Thinking more like lateral step. Same plane, different person.

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

The Vaginas are Ready

2009-03-17T22:17:00.003-04:00

As part of Morgan celebrating Women's History Month and being part of the movement to end violence towards women, office of Student Activities presented the Vagina Monologues. It's the third year the production has ever been put on at Morgan, but my first time attending.

My take on it? I'm glad you asked! With a cast of students and faculty, it was informative, eye opening and humorous all at the same time. Definitely might catch me at the auditions next year. And this year the proceeds went to TurnAround Inc., a non-profit that helps victims of sexual and domestic violence.

For more info on the organization visit http://www.turnaroundinc.org/.

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

She's Your Queen to Be...

2009-03-16T16:36:00.008-04:00

On April 1st, yours truly will be participating in the 1st Annual Miss Bold & Beautiful Pageant here at Morgan. It's the first time anything like this has been done and it's hosted by the one and only Junior Class. ::2010 stand up:: There are six other contestants than myself. I've got crazy love for each and every one of them, but I'll keep it real. I want to win, bad. Who would have ever thought, right? But don't get me wrong, I get in that pageant mode, no problem. As always, there's still work to be done and room for improvement. Pray for me!!

Back to the point, this is the real deal. No jokes about this one. We've been working hard in and out of rehearsals. The actual pageant includes evening wear and speech portions, but I'm not gonna give it all away. Make sure you're there to see for yourself on April 1st, 7pm in the USC. You won't be disappointed.

Shouts to the B&B girls! Keba, Ashia, Mara, Yasmin, LuLu & Sharika :: I couldn't dare forget our coordinators, Miss C.Breedy & Miss Hines!

::uh so yeah, I mocked up some of my own flyers, lol::

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

We are the Bears

2009-03-15T16:44:00.010-04:00

Anyone who knows me, knows that I go to Morgan State University and that I have major Bear Pride. The Morgan Bears have been battling it out in the Mid-Eastern Atlantic Conference and brought home the Championship. SGA set up a welcome back celebration/viewing party for our MEAC champs. The Magnificent Marching Machine always holds it down and the cheerleaders bring that spirit. Even administration was in the building. Our president, Dr. Richardson, Ms. Rush, Mr. Perry and others came out to share in the excitement. Morgan even got a little media shine. The Bears are playing in the NCAAs and travelling out to Missouri to play the Oklahoma Sooners, this week! Morganites let's keep up that Bear Pride!

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miss.εmmε™

Kitty Kouture

2009-03-14T19:08:00.006-04:00

Mirror, mirror on the wall, who's the prettiest kitty of them all? You've guessed it! It's Hello Kitty, the official pretty kitty. I love her, Paris loves her, Kimora loves her and now MAC loves her too. The iconic Sanrio character has been adopted by MAC Cosmetics and given an over-the-top, diva flare. Shiny, sleek and black, no one can resist the Kitty Kouture products. The collectables are flying off the shelves in stores and sold out on the website. And honestly, I'm hating, hard! If anyone out there loves me, I'd love the leather stuffed Kitty or the black compact mirror. Meanwhile, I'll still be wearing my "On the Prowl" nail lacquer.

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miss.εmmε™

From "I am" to "Epiphany"

2009-03-14T01:30:00.004-04:00

Chrisette Michele is unfortunately still one of those under rated, under appreciated talents on the scene. Though she didn't continue to stay current after dropping several singles for her last album, "I Am" still created a very strong fan base. The native New Yorker has got crazy writing skills with a classic jazz voice. Plus, Chrisette has one of those amazing faces that can pull off that great pixie haircut.

Her new single "Epiphany" is a fresh tune off of her upcoming album of the same name. Take a look at the Ray Kay directed video with a cameo from one of my favorites, Drake. Check out his mixtape "So Far Gone" as well, he's real! "Epiphany" drops this spring, on May 19th and I'm looking to be pleasantly suprised.

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

Elections, Schmelections!

2009-03-13T14:50:00.003-04:00

It began as a hope for a better Morgan. Student Government Association was an entity that worked for the students. The ideal SGA member has no hidden agendas, is a hard worker and is passionate about Morgan State University and seeing its wonderful legacy being continued. However, the SGA elections of Spring 2009 have been the expression of the exact opposite. Friendships have been battered by ambitions, unity discarded for division and Morgan spirit traded for personal gain. Where have all the good clean races gone?

This campaign season has been nothing short of intense and insane. Horrible rumors have been spread, personal property defaced and tears have been shed. The interesting thing was that it was not only the behavior of certain candidates that was questionable, but moreso the actions of the campaign teams. I've heard everything from flyers being plastered to cars with packaging tape to candidates being accused of stealing SGA money. The members of these teams have been caught up in a mob mentality that made friends become adversaries.

And just as everyone else, I awaited the results yesterday at 12pm. Unfortunately, they weren't to my liking, but I'm just one person. A lot of people weren't afraid to voice their disappointment in the results, as well as point out the "funny" numbers. I had received text messages, Facebook messages and phone calls about the actual voting and votes. I was curious as to why the change in email wasn't released to the student body as campaigning began. Why were a lot people I knew unable to vote regardless of changing their emails? Why was it that people logged in to vote and the system claimed they voted already? It seems as if the majority is in disagreeance with the elected candidates, but the numbers speak differently.

At the end of it all, everything happens for a reason. Good luck to all those SGA elect members, just remember to do right by the student body. SGA is SGA! To all those candidates that didn't win, I'm sure you've got far more in store not just for Morgan, but for the world. Peace & Blessings!

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

Guess What!?!?

2009-03-12T16:52:00.003-04:00

So lovelies, have you missed me?!?! Kae Deluxe is soooo back on the blog scene, after something a little longer than a hiatus. Trust and believe I have a lot to say and you all know I can only do it my way!! The writer in me just couldn't be put to rest. Look out for the updates very soon!

P.S. I'll never hide my identity! Kae Deluxe, Miss.Emme, KC or Kassandre, you'll always know when it's me!

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

Personal Update

2008-09-20T14:46:00.004-04:00

My friend Shay, known on campus as Miss Morgan State University [lol], is going to compete in the Miss HBCU pageant in ATL next week and I just want to wish her the absolute best of luck!! I know she'll make us all proud. She's the dopest! Keep setting that standard and show them what great Morgan women are about!

Tomorrow, I begin my two month countdown to my 21st birthday. I'm totally excited and dreading it all the same. Maybe somehow, just somehow, everything will go miraculosly well and I'll have stories to tell. We'll see, lol. Oh, by the way, though quite cheesy, 21 things to do before 21! I could use some suggestions. Stay tuned for dress options and all that fun stuff in the near future.

I'm thinking of starting a YouTube series..no concept just yet, but it'll come!

bisou bisou
miss.εmmε™

Like Holy Scheiβe!!

2008-09-15T17:26:00.003-04:00

So, one of my favorite celebs, Miss Jennifer Hudson, won't be a "Miss" for long. The web had already been buzzing about her super on-the-low relationship with Punk from Season 2 of I Love NY and they've been dating less than a year. Well, according to People.com they're engaged! Like, who knew?

My fellow Haitian American, Wyclef Jean partnered with Matt Damon went down to Haiti and set up food distribution to those devasted by the disastrous weather. Good looks on that philanthropy.

Did anyone else see Tyra's scary psycho face at the Calvin Klein's Spring '09 show? Eeeekk!!! I love her but why Tyra? Why? But to cancel out how mean that sounded here's one of my FAVORITE shots of her.

Some Morgan State nouvelle: The first football game of the year the Morgan Bears smashed the North Carolina Central Eagles. Good way to start off the season. Hope you guys do the same at Winston-Salem!!

bisou bisou
miss.emme™

By the Way

2008-09-09T00:23:00.006-04:00

The VMAs were the crappiest of all time. I didn't get past the Jonas Brother performing. Maybe I'll catch a rerun someday just to be sure that it really was that bad.

So, um the word on the net is that McCain is 5 points ahead on the polls. The question is on who's poll? And whom are the polling? Because I clearly don't recall being polled about anything and neither has anyone I know. Just curious.

Mercedes-Benz Fashion Week in NYC = THE one place I wish I could be a fly on the wall, at the very least. Kanye's suit at the Proenza Schouler show...dope. Andre 3000 finally dropping Benjamin Bixby at Barney's....dope. Serena William's dress at the Luca Luca show, soo cute and flattering.

RANDOMS!!!!

-Naturi ::formerly of 3LW:: peeked her head out from behind a rock and appeared at the "The Family That Preys" premiere.
-Usher & Tameka...another baby...the end.

Song of the Moment :: Kanye's "Love Lockdown" on the upcoming "808s & Heartbreak". It's beyond dope.

bisou bisou
miss.emme™

So like, this week...

2008-09-04T20:12:00.006-04:00

The minimal junk:

-watched 90210, it's the quintessential teen drama ::i.e. everything on the N::

-Sarah Palin's straight from the can attack speech was well delivered.

-was shocked and amazed by Ciara's naked Vibe cover ::check it out on CL::

-missed ANTM, but was satisfied with seeing Diane von Furstenberg on Project Runway!

-got a lil motion sickness watching Diddy's insane "Diddy Obama Blog # 16" and I must say he was "buggin the f*ck out" ::youtube it!!::

Now, some Morgan State University nouvelle. Today was the "Rally for Change" in support of the Obama Biden camp. Time for a lil video!

bisou bisou
miss.emme™

Wooooh...on the DNC tip!

2008-08-30T14:01:00.007-04:00

Sorry for the neglect this week! But the first week of school is always hectic and I've totally been distracted by the Democratic National Convention and the other political happenings.

Michelle Obama is nothing short of eloquent and graceful and might I add the Jackie O. of 21st century. Impeccable! Now, on to the man of the moment. Barack Obama just carries that incredible, majestic air about him. People have been going wild about how comparable to the "I Have a Dream" speech his nomination acceptance was. That just holds a lot of weight when it comes to inspiritional influence. And I feel he was quite specific regardless of commentary that has been made. Do not, I repeat, please do not watch Fox News as a source for anything; let's just throw the word biased out there. But on a lighter note, a lot of people have also noticed how fresh Barack's line up and how official Michelle's round brush blow out were. I'm just saying, I'm cosigning with the masses, gotta stay fly. Obama Biden '08. If you haven't yet, I beg of you to register to vote. And to all the students out there, get your absentee ballots early!!

Now you know I couldn't talk about the DNC without mentioning the Republican publicity stunt that is the choosing of Sarah Palin as a Vice Presidential candidate. I'm not gonna go in too deep because that's just giving more unnecessary shine to the opposition, but what the hell?!?!? Everyone's first reaction was Sarah who? The public is not stupid, we all see right through the scheme. Republicans are just sneaky with the tactics, appealing to the white middle class of middle American swing states. Don't be fooled people!!

:: Side note :: I'm taking German this semester, so be prepared, lol. ::

And a small music mention, Brandy's "Right Here (Departed)" is dope!!!

bisou bisou

miss.emme™
auf wiedersehen

Well, It's Back to School Time

2008-08-23T18:36:00.005-04:00

Fall semester is upon us!! Personally, I returned to campus in Baltimore yearning to start the new year, but wishing I had an extra week home. Anywho, along with the music and random happenings and thoughts, I'll also be posting some school update stuff. So, this should be quite interesting.

I'm unpacked, excited and ready to yell and scream until I get all my classes back! : ]
Meanwhile, here's my list of what I think is hot for the fall.

Paisley & raw silk scarves
All American & Uniform Prep pieces [i.e. Gossip Girl]
Fall TV!! Um, Gossip Girl of course : ] & ANTM :this season has a transgender contestant!:
L'Oreal's H.I.P. Jelly Balm
Miss Dior Cherie fragrance
The Return of the Black Model [Hooray for the Jourdan Dunns & Chanel Imans!]
Sol-Angel & the Hadley Street Dreams on the iTunes playlist
The 5th Anniversary of Fashion Rocks on 9pm CBS Sept. 9th
Boys that study in the library
Post-Colonial African Literature [i.e. Things Fall Apart & The Rape of Shavi]

There'll be more to come for sure!!

Bonne Chance ::Good Luck:: to all the scholars!! A's for everyone! lol

bisou bisou

miss.emme™

The Question Is

2008-08-19T18:23:00.003-04:00

When will the ever faithful receive their reward?

When actions make a believer become an infidel
And patience wears thin
And sanity dwindles
And they discredit the naysayers in their uncertainty
The faithful begin to wonder
What have they really been waiting for all along
And they kneel in prayer, as the ever faithful do
And beg for a sign that they are doing the right thing
And continue on believing that one day, they'll receive what they've given

Some more dope music with a video in the bckgrnd... Estelle ft. Cee-Lo "Pretty Please"

bisou bisou
miss.emme™

Sometimes...

2008-08-18T03:36:00.006-04:00

People tend to underestimate the power of words. A lot people say actions speak louder than words, but I feel that words just hold a totally different type of strength. Actions can get you into trouble, but words can get you out of it. Words can destroy a person's character or be encouraging. Well, my point is that words can really make or break things.

Recently, I've been taking a lot of heed to what people have to say. It's amazing what people will tell you, if you listen. Life stories, subconscious confessions, flattery... everything. They're sealed in the good ol' memory bank ;].

Just some thoughts... Listening is a strength and don't forgot the words you hear.

BTW.. Here's Solange's newest video, "Sandcastle Disco." ENJOY!

bisou bisou
miss.emme™

My New Personal "It Girl"

2008-08-13T18:03:00.011-04:00

Although, I have eternally loved Rihanna and she's just THE girl on the scene right now, I've come to find a new "It Girl." Solange!! and I must admit I was one of those naysayers when she first came out as an artist, but I feel this time around she's really come into her own and is no longer "Beyonce's little sister".

I'm an avid CL* reader and I've really taken notice of everything that's posted about her. Musically, her vocals are fresh, the music has that old school vibe and she's a great writer. I definitely dig her songs "ChampagneChronicNightCap", "Sandcastle Disco" and "T.O.N.Y", just along with the single "I Decided." Solange's style is just that quirky, glam, ever-so-slightly left of the trends and I dig it from the big hair right down to the YSL Spectator pumps. She's most definitely weird, but in the coolest way. And she curses like a sailor, but in a pretty girl voice. There you go, Solange Knowles, my new favorite starlet!

*CL=Concrete Loop*

Check out her blog HadleyStreetJournal.com and look out for her music, the album, Sol-Angel & the Hadley Street Dreams drops August 26th! The video for "Sandcastle Disco" premieres this Friday, August 16th on FN MTV.

bisou bisou
miss.emme™

Music!! [with videos in the bckgrnd]

2008-08-12T11:41:00.000-04:00

Okay so, pretty much anyone who knows me knows I'm like a Pharrell and Kanye ~~junkie~~.

I've been bumping to the "Everyone Nose" rmx for a minute now, but video's only been out about 2 weeks. Hype Williams masters another one!

And I, also, absolutely dig Kanye's newest video for "Champion.'' So Crank Yankers! Check it out...

&& congrats y kudos to the U.S. Olympic Relay Swim Team [Cullen Jones, Michael Phelps & the other 2 guys =x]... Watch the Olympics, its dope!

bisou bisou

miss.emme™